DH did apologize to me when he came home Saturday morning. I appreciated the gesture but I don't think he really knew why he was apologizing, and he made more similar comments throughout the weekend. We didn't have a chance to sit down and talk about it, since we had to go to a 1st bday party that afternoon, and I was at a bachelorette that evening, and then Levi was baptized on Sunday and so we had company over all day.
I have been thinking about everything alot the last few days, and I think dh is just overwhelmed...
In the summer dh works a fulltime job and then does landscaping side jobs on many evenings and weekends. This is always dependant on the weather, the homeowners schedule, etc, etc. so I can't really plan anything routinely unless its during the winter months. And he is on-call one week a month.
Besides the fulltime job and side jobs, he does all the yardwork and outdoor stuff and usually does his own laundry and the dishes. He will vacuum and help pick up if we have company coming over.
His biggest issue I think, is that he does sooooo much he is just spread really thin, and feels alot of guilt himself for not getting everything done he wants to. Plus, he underestimates the amount of time things take, and get angry when he doesn't get enough "checked off his list". Oh, and he thinks 6-7 hours of sleep a night is plenty and 8 is really great and its nice to get that much on a weekend to catch-up. Sometimes he has a really tough time playing with Levi, because he isn't "getting anything done".
I on the otherhand, try not to overwhelm myself with goals that are unreasonable, and I always try to schedule more time than I need for any given chore, because I know things always happen! I definitely don't put the same amount of pressure on myself that he does, and I try to encourage him to slow down and enjoy life a little...
Hopefully we will get a chance to talk tonight after Levi goes to bed!
